We've had a bit of wind. I don't know how far into the ground this limb is stuck, but it is far enough that it is supporting the weight at an angle. I'm glad nobody was under that tree.
Saturday we toured a Memory Care Facility about 40 miles away from me. We're just checking out another spot for respite weekends. The current one she goes to is 80 miles away, so I spend a good part of my day off just driving her there. The first person I spoke with assured me that they can do just a weekend, as long as they have availability. The salesperson that gave us the tour said that she would have to check with the executive director to be sure they can do that short of a stay, their usual respite stay is one month. Great, thanks for wasting my time if the executive director doesn't agree. They knew from my initial conversation that we were only interested in weekends.
There is another MCF about 20 miles from me, but their minimum respite stay is two weeks, and there was no budging them on that. They said that they have found that a stay any less than two weeks really isn't beneficial for the caregiver. Right. I'm an adult, I can decide what is beneficial for me. And since I can't afford to pay for two weeks, I would get no respite at all if not for the MCF 80 miles away. Or I suppose I could go all year 24/7 with no break at all, just so I could afford the two weeks. That doesn't work. I have found that by about week 6 I am starting to break down, week 8 I start crying a lot, and week 12 (I think that's the longest I've gone without a weekend off) I am curled up in a fetal position in the corner sobbing uncontrollably. In my head, at least.
What is the answer? Is it just the MCF's in my area that are like this? How do you other caregivers out there get respite? I really want to know.